The Travellyn Heart

12 Intentions to Inspire your Next Adventure

Thu, 07 Mar 2024 07:40:28 GMT

So, what are you looking for ?

Throughout the years of planning my own travels around the world, I've discovered that many of my journeys actually began with a question, rather than a destination - "What am I looking for?". This question may present itself in many ways, such as:

What experiences do I want to have
What do I need more of right now?
What would add value to my life?

Is it exploration? A need for rest? Spaces in which I can express myself authentically? A desire for play, a challenge, or perhaps a combination of these?

Initially, this was something I thought about subconsciously, but over time, it has become a more deliberate practice, guiding me not only to places, but towards experiences that have given me exactly what I needed.

I've uncovered a few high-level intentions that have inspired my travels and may inspire some of yours too. The beauty of these intentions lies in their versatility; they can be explored in cities abroad, within the comfort of your own country, or in the intimate spaces of your soul. I've come to realise that the way I explore the world mirrors my inward journey, exploring who I am, who I aspire to be, and the path that bridges the two.

Below, I've shared some of these intentions, offering you a peek into how they can shape your travels and your journey towards living your most fulfilling life.

12 Intentions to inspire your next adventure

1. Explore

Exploration is naturally associated with travel. Visiting new places, trying out different experiences, and discovering unfamiliar things, typically driven by curiosity.

Exploring injects freshness into our lives, bringing us into contact with new cultures, perspectives, information, destinations, and even food. This leads to a more enlightened version of ourselves and has the potential to change the course of our lives. Without our initial curiosity to explore, we may never have discovered aspects of the world and our existence.

If exploration is one of your intentions, it's important to remain open and flexible to the things we encounter along the way; otherwise, you may miss out on the magic.

One of my main intentions last year was to explore less common destinations. This led me to visit Taiwan and Turkey, places that were new and unfamiliar to me. I learned so much during these trips, from cooking Turkish dishes to hearing more about the respective histories and cultures from locals.

One of my favourite things to do, in general, is to stroll through the streets of a new city aimlessly (where it's safe to do so), observing the way of life and the gradual transition of neighbourhoods. I often find many hidden gems during these walks.

Exploration is also fundamental on the journey of self-discovery. Travel can be an opportunity to get to know yourself on a deeper level and understand who you are at your core, whether through spending time alone, thrusting yourself in a totally new environment, or participating in more guided experiences, such as, retreats. The same approach we use to explore the world can help us truly understand ourselves.

2. Liberate

Liberation has been a significant theme in my life, not only in terms of my country's history or my sexual orientation, but also in freeing myself from limitations and constraints imposed by society and myself, allowing for greater freedom, autonomy, and self-expression.

So, how can you find liberation through travel? Go on solo trips. Do something you've always wanted to do. Visit places you've always dreamed of without waiting for others to join you.

Seek out spaces and communities where you feel safe to be your authentic self, where your true self is not only accepted but celebrated. This may not be in your current city. I've found liberation in various places around the world, such as London, Brazil, Bali, and San Francisco, each for different reasons.

If what you're looking for is liberation through body positivity, get comfortable in your birthday suit and explore naturist beaches. Free yourself :-)

There's something inherently liberating about travel - visiting places where nobody knows you or where things operate completely differently from what you're used to.

I believe one of the reasons why Bali has become a haven for those going through transformational journeys is because of its freedom-based way of life, right down to the feeling of having the wind blow through your hair while on the back of a motorbike - it's simple moments like these that are truly liberating and that can, in turn, affect other areas of your life.

Being able to give yourself the experience of travel, is liberating in itself.

3. Manifest

Using manifestation as an inspiration for your trip may not be as obvious as some of the other intentions, but it's one I've relied on frequently. The key to manifesting is aligning with the energy of the version of yourself that already has what you desire. Personally, I initially struggled to shift my energy and found that traveling (along with music) was one of the easiest ways to do so.

Being part of the LGBT community 14 years ago was very different from what it is today. It was still very taboo and rarely represented on South African television screens. In my early to mid-20s, I used travel as a form of manifestation to be in spaces where I was fully welcomed and accepted as my authentic self, where I felt that sexuality or race didn't matter as much in society. While it's not perfect yet, so much has changed and improved drastically in my country and around the world. This journey was closely linked to my journey of liberation.

This intention can also apply to choosing destinations where you feel safer or places where you would love to live one day. I’ve found it easier to meet the frequency of these manifestations while in these spaces.

I believe this is also how I manifested more of my travels. Every time I felt truly in my element while traveling, I would close my eyes and affirm that I wanted more of those experiences.

Of course, it's not always feasible to do this, but it's something worth considering even in your daily life and current city - find environments that allow you to meet the energy of your manifestation.

4. Connect

The journey towards greater connection is one of the most important in our lifetime.

It has been a primary focus of mine for the past few years. There was a time when I felt so disconnected from nature, others, myself, and spirituality. Only in recent years have I actively worked on nurturing these aspects of my life. With connection comes more awareness, understanding, and guidance. Here are some of the ways we can connect through travel:

Connect with others through group trips, retreats, engaging with locals, fellow travellers, or using travel as a way to spend quality time with loved ones. Travel also offers a unique opportunity for intentional networking if centred around an event, city, or specific community.
Connect with nature through adventure trips and spending time outdoors away from the city. Immersing ourselves in nature provides a much-needed break from our technology-filled lives. Take the time to admire the world's beauty, go camping, chase waterfalls, and hike up mountains. There's so much to see.
Connect with yourself by creating space for introspection, whether through movement or solitude. Go on solo trips or retreats to deepen your self-awareness. Revisit nostalgic places that reconnect you with your inner child. Engage in activities that ignite your passion and reconnect you with your heart and your purpose.
Connect with spirituality by visiting sacred sites and destinations or participating in spiritual retreats. Seek out places where you can connect with your ancestors. Go on a spiritual pilgrimage or connect with nature.

My ultimate journey of connection was the Camino De Santiago, which came at a time when I was perhaps the most disconnected in my life. It effortlessly touched on each of these connection points. I believe that nurturing our connections realigns us with who we are meant to be and the life we're meant to live.

5. Learn

Knowledge is power, and traveling offers us the the opportunity to learn so much. Learn more about ourselves, other cultures, cuisines, history, and life itself; the possibilities are endless. Gain a new skill or learn about certain practices or rituals in their countries of origin. This newfound knowledge may inspire us, contribute to new projects, or simply bring us pure joy. Learning something from a place allows us to carry a piece of it with us wherever we go.

It's common for me to try out cooking classes in destinations where I love the food, so that I can attempt to make it at home.

Studying in a foreign country is also an incredible opportunity to learn from a diverse group of people, gain international exposure, and make new friends and connections abroad. My experience completing my Master's degree in London was challenging, yet far more rewarding than I had anticipated.

There are also short courses that you could look into. In my second gap year, I took a short film-editing course in London, and a Web Design course in San Francisco, which allowed me to gain new skills, while also getting a feel of how it is to live in the city.

6. Release

The intention of release is a transformative one. Travel can help you to process loss and navigate your way through difficult emotions by spending time in nature, participating in facilitated retreats, or visiting special places that hold significance and may bring closure. Removing yourself from your current environment and placing yourself in one that fosters healing has the ability to help this process.

You can release energy through movement, and engaging in more active trips.

Release old beliefs, thoughts or anything that is not serving you and go on an unexpected journey.

Release could also signify letting go of control; not planning too much and letting the journey unfold naturally. Trusting the process.

Releasing typically brings more clarity, healing and renewed energy.

It should be noted that while travel can facilitate the process of release, it usually goes hand in hand with the internal work that has to accompany it.

7. Play

Play is an extremely important aspect of our lives, one that I admittedly took for granted at some point. It's essential if we want to live life to the fullest. Play reconnects us with our inner child, bringing us back to the essence of what brings us joy. It can be carefree, senseless fun. I’ve seen too many people, myself included take life too seriously. Have fun. If your heart is craving more playfulness, engage in activities that take you out of your headspace and into your heart space. Dance, laugh, and let go. Plan trips around experiences that fill you with pure joy. Let your hair down and let go of the idea of always being so put together.

Attending festivals or musical events is one way I embrace this intention. I love music, dressing up, dancing, and connecting with others who share the same desire for fun and connection.

8. Rest

Another common form of travel is rest and relaxation. This is understandable, as many people use travel as a means to escape from their busy lives. Probably the one intention that I was less accustomed to using, as I found myself more inclined to active travel. Heavy on the exploring, light on the rest. However, in my 30s, I've increasingly honoured this intention not only in my travels, but in my day-to-day life as well.

Sometimes, you just need to decompress, disconnect, and allow yourself to be pampered and cared for to replenish your energy for the next chapter.

9. Inspire & Create

I’ve grouped these two together as they are particularly similar. Creation is ultimately inspiration in action.

Being in a particular place can stimulate the creation of new neural pathways in your brain, potentially inspiring your next venture or idea. Need some inspiration? Explore a place completely different from what you're used to, or choose a specific destination based on the type of inspiration you are looking for.

Changing your environment can have a huge impact on both your creativity and your ability to create. Your ideal environment may be unique to you and dependent on what your specific needs are at the time. It may be a little log cabin in the middle of a forest where you can finish writing your book, or somewhere where you are surrounded by like-minded people for you to bounce ideas off of. It could also be in a bustling city where you feed off of the energy, or a pilgrimage which gives you time to do deep thinking while in movement. I've noticed that my creativity flows more freely when I travel and when I am in movement, but I love being immersed in nature when it comes to creating.

Travel can also inspire you to create beautiful content if you’re a content creator or are interested in trying it out.

Another way you can think of this intention is being inspired to curate your own ideal trip, either by yourself or with a more experienced traveler. This allows for greater creativity in your travels, going beyond the main tourist attractions to get more value and a personalised experience.

10. Give Back

Feeling the need to give back to a community or inspired to engage in cultural exchange while traveling? There are numerous ways you can fulfil this desire around the world, including volunteering, participating in cultural exchange programs, or supporting local communities. Many volunteering and cultural exchange opportunities offer accommodation or food in exchange for your contributions. Giving back, doing things in service of others, and sharing knowledge often lead to uniquely memorable and soul-satisfying adventures.

11. Challenge

If you're looking for something to challenge you or push you beyond your comfort zone, go on an adventure that will test you - try something crazy, climb a high mountain, go on a Vipassana meditation retreat, skydive, walk the Camino, or explore a new style of traveling. Only you know what will truly be a challenge for you.

Sometimes, we need to place ourselves in these situations to discover what we're truly capable of or to unlock another level within ourselves.

12. Love

Love is one of the most powerful intentions. It has the ability to completely shift your energy, mindset, and outlook on life.

Activate love by immersing yourself in communities where you are cherished or in places that bring you joy. Engage in things that you love to do, indulge in delicious food, and explore beautiful destinations. Tap into gratitude and abundance as you travel.

Make time for sunsets, sunrises and beautiful views, which reminds us of the love within and around us.

Find your way back to love by going to special places, or those where spirituality and healing work is done. For many it helps removing yourself from your usual environment to do some of this work. Bali was one of these places for me, but there are many more all over the world.

When you vibrate with love internally, you attract more of it in the world.

I hope that these intentions add value to your future adventures. There is so much more that we can get from our travels and I encourage you to share your experiences, and add your own insights. And of course, get in touch with me if you need any assistance. Together, let's discover how travel can inspire us to live more fully, both internally and out in the world.

My First Solo Trip (1): A Rough Start

Mon, 26 Feb 2024 12:30:48 GMT

A Rough Start

If someone had told me that my solo journey of exploring the world would start off with a series of unfortunate events, I might have reconsidered my life choices. Yet, here I am, with quite the collection of stories to tell. So, grab a seat and maybe a helmet; it's going to be a bumpy ride.

Be careful what you wish for

As I mentioned in So, Who Am I? , I successfully negotiated a deal with my parents for their support during a gap year I planned to take right after matriculating from high school. Unsure of what I wanted to do with my life, this option seemed the most appealing to me, especially since I was eager to see more of the world.

To make my case, I put together a detailed 40-page presentation, outlining the various destinations I was interested in, an estimated budget, and, most importantly, the benefits I expected to gain from the experience. This list was comparable to a set of course objectives, promising not just travel but a transformative journey that would lead to:

an international network
a deeper understanding of myself
improved social and interpersonal skill
cultural awareness
better planning and problem-solving abilities
and, the ability to handle challenging situations

Looking back, I don’t think I realised exactly what I was putting out into the universe. However, at the time, my priority was to say whatever was necessary to impress and persuade my parents.

First Stop: London

I had initially planned to do volunteer work while traveling abroad, so I reached out to a few contacts of mine and my dad's. However, as the gap year rapidly approached, the volunteering opportunities remained unresolved. Feeling restless, I decided to embrace the uncertainty and set off with my bags packed and only a vague plan in mind.

My first destination? London. I was drawn to the city's vibrant energy, which I had experienced once before during a family holiday in 2006. London's reputation for diversity and inclusivity fuelled my decision, as did the nostalgic stories my dad shared from his time completing his MBA there.

The Departure

The day I left is mostly a blur in my memory. However, one vivid detail stands out: a large group of my friends gathered to see me off, all of us thinking that we would not be seeing each other for ages. Little did we know, that farewell would prove to be short-lived.

Welcome to London: Where My Immigration Fears Began

Landing at Heathrow, I was immediately thrust into the world of independence, starting with my first-ever solo encounter with immigration—a process I was convinced was designed to test my composure. At the time, South Africans were still allowed to get a visa-on-arrival which was a blessing and a curse. I began to worry about whether I had the right documentation, as the reality of being so far from family and friends sank in .

As I stood in line, my phone buzzed with messages from a worried mother, adding to my already heightened nerves. A hasty attempt to answer earned me a stern reprimand from security, as no phones were allowed, sending my anxiety soaring.

Spotting a black officer among the immigration staff brought a fleeting sense of calm, and I silently hoped she would handle my case. My wish was granted, but maybe to my detriment. Her thorough questioning came as a bit of a shock to the system. She was not impressed that I had rocked up with nothing tying me back to South Africa. The tension peaked when she escorted me to a separate room, instructing me to surrender all my belongings and undergo what felt like a gruelling interrogation under the gaze of a camera that seemed to bore into my soul.

At that point I thought that my fate had been sealed. So many things were going on in my head.

Don’t look guilty

Just breathe

I wanted to beg her not to send me back.

Please don’t embarrass me like that, Mam - I thought as I reflected on the huge farewell I had just had.

Despite my best efforts, the discovery of my CV in my bag only added fuel to the fire, prompting a tense exchange as I tried to explain away its presence. Surrounded by the turmoil of interrogation rooms, I couldn't help but overhear the heated exchanges nearby. I watched as others were being told that they were going to be sent back home, adding to my unease.

After what felt like an eternity, the officer returned with a verdict—I would be allowed entry, but she sternly warned against overstaying or trying to extend my stay.

Relief washed over me, tempered by the sobering realisation of the scrutiny I had just faced. Hours of uncertainty and interrogation had left a defining mark on my experience. One that has stuck with me through all of my years of travelling.

I was one of the lucky last ones who received a visa-on-arrival, as the UK revoked South Africa’s visa free status later that year.

London Calling: Finding My Feet (and a New Family)

A rough start to my solo travels, indeed. But, boy , did it make actually being let in so much sweeter. The poor lady who graciously hosted me for my first couple of days had waited over three hours for my arrival. I was incredibly fortunate that she was still there; I couldn't bear the thought of navigating public transport after that ordeal.

Confession time - The Parent Trap ranks among my all-time favourite movies!

As we drove through the streets of London, I couldn't help but channel my inner Lindsay Lohan, sticking my head out of the window to feel the brisk London breeze against my face... until I was promptly instructed to roll it back up, given that it was the middle of winter.

To this day, London remains one of my favourite cities, and I've returned many times since. There's an unmatched energy to the place that keeps drawing me back.

This particular trip brought many firsts and valuable lessons. My first stay at a backpacker's hostel in Queensway introduced me to my first international makeshift family, teaching me the art of creating a "home" wherever I go and the skill of sleeping through just about anything.

I was fortunate that most of the people staying at the backpackers were living in London, allowing us to forge strong bonds over time. I grew particularly close to a Brazilian girl, which felt like fate, considering that I didn’t know at the time that Brazil would soon become one of my favourite places on earth.

The diversity within London always fascinated me and taught me more about myself than I could have imagined. It offered a freedom to simply be that was both liberating and enlightening.

An Unexpected Return back home

Just as I was beginning to settle into my new life in London, a volunteering opportunity in Germany finally came my way. However, the reality of traveling on a South African passport soon hit me hard. Just a month after my grand departure, I found myself heading back to South Africa to apply for my Schengen Visa.

to be continued….

Travel With Intention: An Introduction

Thu, 22 Feb 2024 11:02:37 GMT

Journey with Intention

In the constant buzz of everyday life, travel emerges not only as a break from the routine but as a profound journey towards freedom and self-discovery. It invites us to venture beyond the familiar, to uncover the mysteries of the unknown, and to reconnect with the essence of who we are.

What if we viewed travel not merely as an escape but as a purposeful journey of the soul? Embarking on a journey with intention means traveling mindfully, with a desire to deeply and authentically connect with both the world around us and the worlds within us.

Disconnected

In 2016, while sitting in my Airbnb in Buenos Aires, Argentina, amidst the excitement of new sights and sounds, a feeling of disconnect washed over me. I was three days into my December holiday trip, and to be honest, I felt as if I had gotten it wrong. I remember asking myself:

Am I enjoying this ?

Do I even want to be here ?

Do I still enjoy travelling ??? (the drama…)

Hearing that final question left me breathless. I was caught off guard. But the truth was, this feeling didn't just pop up out of nowhere; it had been building up from my last two trips, feelings I had tried to ignore.

Travel, for me, had up until that point been a sacred time for self-discovery—a solo venture into the unknown, where I could find communities in which I could express myself authentically. It was a time of being festive and, honestly, indulging in excessive partying. But what once brought me joy and release was now causing me anxiety. I was going through a period where I was disconnected to what I actually wanted and needed. I felt lonely on my travels. The parties no longer brought me joy. I was longing for something else. But what exactly?

The Heart wants what it wants

Just two years later, as I began my journey on the Camino, it felt like I had found my answer. What I was searching for was deeper connection - to nature, to myself, and to others. With every step on this 800km walk, my body and soul awakened to the vast possibilities of exploration that truly resonated with my evolving needs.

This shows a key idea of The Travellyn Heart —our needs are personal and they can change. What excites me might not excite you, and what excites me today might not do the same tomorrow.

Embracing Intentional Travel

Intentional travel is about moving through the world with purpose and awareness, choosing experiences that enrich our lives and the lives of others. It’s a commitment to travel with open eyes and an open heart, asking ourselves what we seek to gain and what we hope to contribute.

The Travellyn Heart , believes in setting intentions that align with our deepest desires and aspirations. When we give the heart what it needs it results in further expansion and connection. Whether it's seeking liberation in community, finding solace in nature, or embarking on a journey of self-discovery, intentional travel is about using our journeys as a canvas for personal and collective growth.

Crafting Journeys with Intentions

Setting intentions allows us to curate our travels with focus and flexibility, inspiring our choices and inviting the universe to align with our desires. These intentions can range from seeking joy and connection to embracing solitude and reflection. They guide our paths, influence our destinations, and infuse our experiences with meaning.

Yet, it’s crucial to hold these intentions lightly, allowing space for the unexpected and the spontaneous. It's in this balance that we find the true essence of intentional travel—creating journeys that reflect our changing needs and desires, but also remaining open to what the universe wants to show us.

A World Transformed

Traveling with intention has reshaped my understanding of the world and myself. It has turned each journey, whether abroad or right here in my own country, into a chapter of growth, filled with lessons, connections, and unforgettable moments. This approach to travel has the power not only to create more value in our travels and transform us, but also to make a positive impact on the communities and environments we visit. You will always return a better and more enlightened version of yourself.

A Guide to Planning Your Next Adventure: My Favourite Resources

Tue, 20 Feb 2024 12:36:55 GMT

My Favourite Resources

One of the most frequent questions I'm asked is, "What do you use to plan your holidays?" .

Planning a journey can be quite overwhelming, tempting some to either abandon their plans or understandably hand it over to a travel expert.

However, for those who prefer to take the reins, I thought it would be helpful to share the resources that have become my trusted companions for crafting the perfect getaways over the years.

Transportation: Mapping Out the Journey

ITA Matrix

This is my starting point for flight searches due to its unparalleled flexibility.

While direct booking isn't possible, ITA Matrix excels in providing a snapshot of potential costs and identifying the most cost-effective travel dates. One thing to note, is that it does not take low-cost airlines into account.

Navigating its advanced search feature may seem daunting at first, but mastering it unlocks its full potential. This is particularly beneficial for travelers with flexible itineraries or those comparing multiple destinations.

Flight Search Engines

With insights from ITA Matrix , I then move onto search engines like Skyscanner , Kayak , Google Flights , Momondo , and Travelstart . These platforms are essential for encompassing a wider array of options, including low-cost airlines.

It's crucial to verify essential details such as baggage allowance, cancellation policies, and layover times when comparing flight prices. While some options may appear cheaper initially, they may lack certain benefits offered by others.

Additionally, many flight search engines now offer an Explore feature. This innovative tool allows users to input their departure airport and visually explore prices for different destinations on a map. It's particularly advantageous for travelers who do not have a destination in mind.

Airlines and Loyalty Programs

After identifying the most suitable flight options through the above-mentioned search engines, I always make it a point to cross-check the prices directly on the airline's official website. Should the prices mirror each other, my preference leans towards booking directly with the airline. This approach significantly enhances the convenience and efficiency of managing any potential changes to the flight details.

Furthermore, I strongly recommend enrolling in airline loyalty programs if you haven't already done so. Reflecting on my own experiences, one of my initial oversights was not joining such programs from the start of my travels, resulting in a considerable loss of valuable points. These points could have been instrumental in offsetting expenses for other trips (cry with me). I'll also mention that belonging to a certain loyalty program may also factor into your final flight selection.

Among the loyalty programs that I frequently use are Emirates Skywards , Qatar Airways' Privilege Club , and Star Alliance . Yours may differ depending on your location and frequently used airlines.

Credit Card Loyalty Programs

Travelers, particularly from the US and Europe, often benefit from credit card loyalty programs, using accumulated points to purchase flight tickets. However, as a South African, my options for such programs have been somewhat limited.

Nonetheless, I am a member of Discovery Bank , which offers a points system along with a travel booking platform. It's important to highlight that the best rewards from this program are accessible primarily to those who are deeply engaged with other Vitality products and services. This integration provides a unique opportunity to leverage health and wellness activities for travel benefits.

Rome2Rio & Google Maps

Rome2Rio is the perfect starting point when you have no idea of how you would get from point A to point B. By simply inputting your departure and arrival locations, the platform presents you with all available transportation options—including bus, train, plane, or boat routes—along with their respective costs.

Google Maps has also advanced its offering when it comes to public transport, which I use religiously when assessing distances and exploring local transport options for navigating my way around a city.

The Man in Seat 61

An informative resource to have when planning rail transport around the world

Accommodati on: Finding the Perfect Stay

Airbnb & Booking.com

My preferred platforms for booking accommodation are Airbnb , which offers unique local stays, and Booking.com, which provides a wide range of hotels and hostels suited to a variety of preferences.

I love using Airbnb if I want my own space or a more homely feel. I find that most of the time it gives me greater insight into the experience of living in the respective city. You also gain direct access to the host who is usually able to provide you with more local recommendations.

Booking.com is an excellent platform for finding places that offer flexibility, especially if you might need to cancel or modify your booking later on without paying anything immediately. This is perfect if you need to book accommodation for your visa application. You are able to filter the results so that it only displays places that offer free cancellation with no prepayment. Just make sure to note the final date by which changes can be made without a penalty.

As both Airbnb and Booking.com have expanded their range of listings, it's not uncommon for the same property to be featured on both platforms, often at different prices. Therefore, it's beneficial to compare the offerings on both sites to secure the best deal.

Agoda , Trivago & Expedia

Agoda is particularly useful in Asia, often featuring deals not available on other platforms. Once I have whittled down my options on Airbnb and Booking.com , I would do a final check on Agoda to see if there are any better options.

In the past I have also used Trivago and Expedia , however, not that much anymore.

Couchsurfing & Volunteering

For those seeking immersive experiences or who are traveling on a budget, Couchsurfing or volunteer work are the perfect options for you.

Couchsurfing is a platform that connects members with a global travel community, offering genuine insight into what it's like living in the respective city. Its greatest advantage is that accommodation is free; however, you'll be staying in someone's home, and your accommodation can range from a couch in the living room to a private guest room.

To get started with Couchsurfing , you’ll need to create a profile and gradually accumulate reviews. These reviews are important as they help potential hosts decide whether they'd like to welcome you into their home.

Reflecting on my own experiences, I actively engaged in Couchsurfing during my younger adult years and even hosted fellow travelers in Cape Town while I wasn't on the road myself. It truly provides an opportunity for deeper cultural exchanges.

Platforms like Workaway , World Packers , and HelpX offer opportunities to exchange work for food and accommodation, providing a unique lens into local life while also giving back. There are a wide variety of projects available, from permaculture to hostel building, or even working at an NGO or school. Although these platforms require a membership fee, it's reasonable, ranging between $20-$129 for 1-2 years.

Activitie s: Crafting Memorable Experiences

When planning your trip, it's essential to consider the range of activities available. While I tend to avoid over-scheduling, preferring to leave room for spontaneity, I make exceptions for activities with limited availability or specific timing requirements. I do, however, thoroughly research and compile a list of activities. This preparation ensures I have a quick reference for making informed bookings when the time comes.

Below are some of my preferred resources for finding activities. Each offers a variety of options, making it beneficial to explore them all:

GetYourGuide & FreeTour

For organized tours and activities, these platforms offer a range of options, from unique cooking classes to "free" walking tours (where donations are appreciated).

Airbnb Experiences

For unique and authentic experiences in a city. These experiences usually feel more intimate to me than other group experiences.

TripAdvisor

Tripadvisor is my usual go-to for reading user reviews, as it has a broad spectrum of activities and experiences, and is widely used across the world. You are also able to make activity bookings through it.

Eatwith

For home-cooked dinners with locals. Every host sets their own price , but this is a great way to do something different, pick a local’s brain, and make a new friend.

Couchsurfing Meetups & Meetup

For those looking to engage and connect with locals or like-minded travelers. This is also a great networking opportunity.

Michelin Guide

For Michelin recommended restaurants all over the world. Great resource for finding delicious food wherever you are.

Resident Advisor

For discovering electronic music events all over the world. I've found many unique parties through this site in the past.

BookRetreats

For exploring retreats in any city. However, there are many retreats which are not advertised on here.

IGLTA & Utopia Asia

For country-specific or activity specific LGBT friendly service providers around the world. Utopia Asia is solely focused on Asia.

Other Essential Resources

Numbeo

Numbeo allows you to compare approximate day to day expenses between cities. This is useful for budget planning.

Passport Index

For checking visa requirements for your destination, given your passport.

SafetyWing & World Nomads

Recommended for travel insurance, offering coverage tailored to the needs of travelers and digital nomads. It is, however, worth first checking with your bank if they provide you with free travel insurance.

Embarking on Your Next Adventure

I hope that this initial guide provides you with the necessary resources to start planning your next adventure. Should you have additional favourites that I have not covered, please let me know in the comments. I would love to add them to my toolbox.

Happy Planning :-)

The Journey to The Travellyn Heart

Sun, 11 Feb 2024 19:10:46 GMT

The Journey to The Travellyn Heart

Now that you've learned a bit more about me , I'm eager to share the story behind this blog. The Travellyn Heart holds a deeply personal significance, evident in its name.

The Epiphany

The idea for The Travellyn Heart struck me like a bolt of lightning one evening in 2022. An electrifying energy coursed through my veins, as if the universe was sending me a clear signal that this was a venture I needed to pursue.

In retrospect, it may have felt like a sudden revelation, but I soon realised that there had been signs, breadcrumbs scattered throughout my life, all converging to this moment.

Bali Bliss

At the time, I found myself on a remote working holiday in Bali with my sister and a mutual friend. Bali is not referred to as "The Island of Gods" for nothing. It is a magical place. This trip solidified that belief for me, for numerous reasons that I'll share with you as our journey unfolds. It felt as though the universe had guided me back to Bali to be completely surrounded by its love, in every sense. Everywhere I turned, I encountered hearts—literal and metaphorical symbols of love and connection. Through people, through moments of synchronicity, through moments that left me in awe, through my surroundings, and most importantly, through myself.

Let’s go back even further

If we go back even further, I was a very different person from who I was in 2022, and certainly from who I am today, at least internally. In 2018, I grappled with some of the darkest moments of my life. My anxiety and depression, which had simmered since my teenage years, reached a climax. It was possibly the worst time for it to happen, as I was abroad in London completing my Master's Degree in Data Science and Machine Learning. I was suffering from extreme imposter syndrome, fuelled by this storm that was brewing inside of me. The ironic thing was that I was actually doing fine academically, but the dark cloud hanging over me would not dissipate. My mental health deteriorated to the extent that I ended up submitting my thesis late, which only contributed to a further downward spiral. The cracks that I was so desperately trying to conceal from everyone began to show.

A Pilgrimage of Healing

My salvation came in the form of the Camino. This pilgrimage unexpectedly presented itself as a gift from the universe. Armed with just a one-way ticket to Bayonne, France, and my first three nights accommodation, I embarked on a month-long, 800-kilometer walk from France to Spain. You'll likely hear more about the Camino, as it's an experience I believe everyone should contemplate doing at least once in their life. It gave me the space to process and declutter my mind, immerse myself in nature, release pent-up energy through physical movement, and discover a newfound family and community. The Camino taught me invaluable lessons about life. This journey saved me … for the time being.

A Return to South Africa

Upon completing the Camino in late 2018, I returned to South Africa. Surprisingly, I felt a sense of relief to be back home after being abroad for about a year and a half, especially being away from friends and family during some of my darkest moments. Moreover, returning in the summer—a season synonymous with many festivities in South Africa—provided a temporary reprieve from my troubles. But as summer waned, so did my spirit.

I realised that the Camino had merely scratched the surface of the healing and processing I needed to undertake. I reached a point where I became acutely aware of the unseen trauma festering within me. At that time, however, things were shifting and changing so rapidly, with multiple events unfolding in my life that didn’t provide me the opportunity to focus on it. I found myself resorting to numbing, escaping, avoiding, and distracting myself - as we often do.

The World Comes to a Halt

Then, the whole world shut down, as if the universe was tethering me to the ground, signalling an end to my escapism. It was a stark reminder that my only journey for the foreseeable future would be an internal one—a journey of healing.

In a way, the world's lockdown saved me. It stripped away distractions, excuses, and vices, allowing me to embark on a profound journey of healing and self-love that transformed my life. It may sound cliché, but it's true.

Back in Bali

And there, as I sat in Bali, two years later, I found myself surrounded by love—both within and without. Although still on my journey, I had come a very long way. Amidst numerous realisations, one stood out: as much as I cherished travel, the internal journey I was navigating was equally—if not more—significant. The shifts in mindset, the healing process, the journey to self-love and self-discovery, the quest for liberation and confidence—this was the missing piece I had been searching for. I realised that my purpose extended beyond inspiring others to pursue their travel dreams; I sought to illuminate the path of inner exploration—the journey of the heart, mind, and soul. We do not always need to go far to travel, sometimes the journeys that can take you the furtherest are the non-physical ones.

And there, in the enchanting allure of Bali, The Travellyn Heart was conceived—a name that encapsulates it all.

The Journey Continues

As you've likely gathered, this revelation occurred in 2022. What happened between then and now? There was more journey to go on. When I left Bali that time, it felt as though I had left all the magic behind. Fears and self-doubts resurfaced, threatening to stifle my aspirations.

The subsequent leg of my journey involved learning to embrace my role as a co-creator of my life. I struggled to seize control of that narrative, particularly in terms of my career. Fears and doubts, both self-imposed and external, held me captive.

A year and a half later, I mustered up the courage to resign from my corporate job and embark on a new journey—one rooted in freedom. It's still unfolding, but one thing remains constant: my commitment to bringing The Travellyn Heart to life—not only for myself but for anyone who may find solace and inspiration within its posts.

What to Expect?

The Travellyn Heart is more than just a blog; it's a philosophy. It views travel through a broader lens—a journey not only across geographical landscapes but also through the labyrinth of the heart, mind, and soul. The Travellyn Heart is a space for inspiration, as well as, storytelling.

My hope is that through sharing I will inspire and empower you to not only actualise your travel dreams but to also invite you on a journey of loving yourself, others, the earth and LIFE a little harder. At its core, The Travellyn Heart seeks to infuse every adventure with soulful purpose.

Expect:

Nostalgic and transformative tales and insights from my travels and life experiences
Practical travel tips and resources garnered from years of travel
Intentional travel guides applicable to any destination
Journeys of self-discovery, self-love, and self-empowerment

Three core beliefs embody The Travellyn Heart :

It’s Personal : The name speaks to the fusion of travel and the deep, heartfelt experiences that shape me and us along the way. It serves as a reminder that travel can be a deeply personal journey—a path we may each tread in our own unique way.
The Heart is at the centre of Travel : Travel transcends mere sightseeing; it's about the heart. It evokes a spectrum of emotions, whether it's love, novelty, awe, liberation, power, relaxation, or nostalgia. There's something about travel that truly connects us to our hearts, and it's crucial for us to listen. Through listening, we gain valuable insights into ourselves and what truly ignites us.
The Traveling Heart: Every destination leaves an indelible imprint on our hearts, souls, and minds. We evolve and adapt over time, shedding old layers and embracing new experiences. The Travellyn Heart is a testament to this ever-evolving journey.

Join the Journey

As we travel the world together, let's not merely collect passport stamps but weave a tapestry of memories. Whether you're a seasoned traveler, a dreamer, or someone embarking on their healing journey, The Travellyn Heart welcomes kindred spirits with open arms.

Join me on this journey of exploration, connection, and transformation. Embrace the magic that unfolds when we travel with open hearts.

With a heart full of wanderlust,

Lynray Barends

So, who am I ?

Sun, 11 Feb 2024 19:04:33 GMT

Who am I ?

So, we're diving into existential questions right off the bat?

Who am I?

I've been wrestling with this question for much of my adult life, leading to some interesting revelations, but we'll save that for another time. As you'll quickly discover, there are many different facets to me, but It's all part of the package deal, right? ��

Let's begin with a bit of background.

I'm a digital nomad, travel enthusiast, and, I suppose, a budding storyteller and entrepreneur. I was born in Cape Town, South Africa, but have always considered myself a global citizen—a true child of the world.

Throughout most of my academic and professional career, I've been in the Computer Science & Technology field, taking on engineering and consulting roles in recent years.

However, I've always felt that my time within the confines of a 9-5 job was limited. I dreamt of the full-time digital nomad lifestyle and becoming an entrepreneur in the travel industry.

I have one sister and a dog-daughter, Foxy, who lives up to her name. I'm passionate about music, travel, mental health, and building communities through shared experiences. I have big dreams of one day being on Survivor, whenever it makes its triumphant return to our TV screens in South Africa.

Others have described me as adventurous, open, generous, stubborn, funny AF, passionate, loyal, uninhibited, and a finder of good vibes and tribes.

The Beginning of My Relationship with My Passport

My love affair with travel ignited at a young age, sparked by countless hours spent at my grandmother's house in Elsies River, Cape Town. While not the safest neighborhood, it was in very close proximity to the airport. I found immense joy in watching planes take off and land, yearning for the day I would be on one.

I count myself fortunate to have been born into a family that shared my passion for travel. Thanks to the hard work and sacrifices of my parents, we embarked on our first international trip as a family to the United States of America when I was only 9 years old.

Stepping into Another World

It felt as though I had been transported to another world. And in a way, I had.

Sensory Overload! Everything seemed magnified— from the honking horns in New York traffic to the volume and intensity of people's voices. I distinctly remember a man letting out the loudest burp I had ever heard while we waited in line for food. As crazy as it may sound, I LOVED it. My heart was ablaze. My dream of traveling the world had been fully ignited.

When's Our Next Adventure?

From that moment onward, travel became the one thing I incessantly pestered my parents about.

When is our next trip?

When can I start looking for flights?

Where are we going next?

During my teenage years, we managed to go abroad every other year. We explored Hong Kong, Thailand, Canada, and went on a winter Euro trip. My hunger to see and experience more grew exponentially after each trip.

The Proposal

As the final year of high school approached, like all students, I found myself contemplating the future. At that moment, all I could think about was travel. I lacked clarity regarding what I wanted to study or become.

After scouring the internet, I knew that I had to take a gap year, preferably abroad. The only problem? I had no clue how to make it happen.

For weeks, I wracked my brain until inspiration struck. I realized I had to frame the gap year and international travel to my parents as an invaluable learning and growth opportunity that would give me a competitive edge in both my professional and personal life. I meticulously compiled a 40+ page document detailing everything from costs and resources to the myriad of benefits and skills I would acquire throughout the year. This list included things, such as enhanced social and interpersonal skills, cultural enrichment, problem-solving and planning abilities, organization, self-discovery, and the expansion of my international network. All of which would complement my theoretical education.

To sweeten the deal, I leveraged my strong work ethic, pledging to work diligently and excel in my final year (aware that my parents really valued education). Furthermore, I assured them that I would perform well enough to be eligible for university funding awards.

After some tough negotiations, we all signed a contract that I had drafted. Yes, I actually drafted a contract and made my parents sign it.

It paid off! I secured a spot among the top 15 students in our grade, and my application for a gap year was approved.

The Gap Year

In January 2009, I embarked on my very first solo international trip to London, UK.

Although the initial plan had changed along the way, this gap year surpassed all expectations in terms of exploration and personal development. I returned home with a wealth of new knowledge, friends, and unforgettable memories and stories—many of which you'll hear more about as this blog unfolds. This trip marked numerous firsts for me. To give you a glimpse, it was the first time I:

traveled internationally alone
was detained and questioned at an airport
experienced staying in a backpackers' hostel
made international friends
learned a new language
went on a skiing holiday
volunteered at a theatre
lost my wallet and spent my birthday practically penniless
and many more...

Even the more challenging experiences have morphed into some of my most amusing and cherished memories.

From an early stage, I learnt that things don’t always go as planned, but there’s usually something to take away from it, even if it's just a humorous story.

This journey truly opened my eyes to the profound and transformative power of travel, especially when approached with intention. I returned home a more enlightened version of myself, hungry for more.

As much as I aspired to work in the travel industry, I opted for the safer route and returned home to complete my degree in Computer Science at the University of Cape Town.

Fast Forward

Fast Forward to the present day, I've traveled to over 40 countries and have experienced a wide variety of trips including:

2 gap years abroad
earning my master's degree in the UK
completing the Camino de Santiago twice
leading a group of South African women on an unforgettable trip to Peru
experiencing my own "eat, pray, love" moment in Bali
and embracing the digital nomad lifestyle while journeying through Europe and Asia.

Over the years, I've transformed these dreams into reality by leveraging my education, relationship-building and networking skills, some savvy research and planning, and, of course, a touch of manifesting.

In late 2023, I finally took the plunge to leave my corporate job in favour of the full-time digital nomad lifestyle and the chance to pursue my dreams of forging a career aligned with my passion for travel, transformation, and community building.

This blog is just one of the stepping stones toward making it all a reality.

This is merely a portion of the tale. I'll save the rest of the journey to The Travellyn Heart for the next post.

Welcome to The Travellyn Heart

Sun, 11 Feb 2024 12:07:35 GMT

Hey , Travel Tribe

I'm Lynray Barends, the heart and soul behind The Travellyn Heart .

First and foremost, I am overjoyed to welcome you here. I have wanted to bring this blog to life for a LONG time.

My love for travel and exploration started when I was very young, leading me on adventures across 43 countries over the past 24 years. It would likely be more if I didn't keep finding myself drawn back to certain favourites— cough cough Brazil.

As you delve into my journey, you'll discover the profound impact travel has had on my life. Each adventure has woven unforgettable stories, imparted valuable lessons, and facilitated tremendous personal growth, marking distinct chapters in my life.

Travel stands as one of my most respected teachers, offering wisdom not only about the world but also about self-discovery, love, play, healing, connection, community, and life itself. The list could go on indefinitely. Through travel, I've come to realise that we're all journeying through life, and it's essential to savour every moment of it. It has also served as a gentle reminder that we hold the power to shape our own experiences.

The Travellyn Heart encompasses not only the tangible adventures we embark on but also the unseen, internal journeys.

While many may seek solace in travel to “find themselves”, it's crucial to understand that it doesn't substitute the inner work we must undertake. Instead, there exists a beautiful synergy between exploring the world and delving into the depths of our inner selves—the heart, mind, and soul.

Through the lens of my ever-curious spirit, I invite you to embark on this soulful journey of exploration, connection, and transformation with me.

I suppose we have some catching up to do...